If the term “role-playing” conjures up images of furry handcuffs and a policewoman outfit or a desperate couple pretending to be strangers in a bar then its time to leave these old-school clichés behind. Temporarily taking on a different identity in the bedroom doesn’t have to be cheesy and it shouldn’t be something you only view as a last-ditch attempt to recapture some sizzle. Do it right, and it can shake up your bedroom routine in all the right ways, says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. Here, five reasons that should convince you give it a try ASAP.
1. You Get to Explore Your Craziest Fantasies
Even the most confident woman can feel ridiculously awkward telling her partner that shes turned on by men in uniform or that she wants to be blindfolded in bed, says Kerner. Frame these fantasies as part of a role-playing scenario, though, and they come off as fun gamesnot a weird fetish confession. Next time you’re in bed, get things going with phrases like, “I had this hot dream last night that you were a police officer and I’d broken the law” or “I wonder what it would be like to not be able to see you touch me during sex?”
2. You’ll Engage the Sexy Side of Your Brain
The right stroke or touch can set you on the path to an incredibly hot orgasm. But if you’re not using your imagination, you’re shortchanging yourself in the pleasure department. “Role-playing taps into the mental aspect of sex, and that gives the physical sensation you’re feeling a whole extra dimension,” says Kerner. You’ve heard that saying about how the brain is the most important sex organ? Totally true, and role-playing helps you engage it……….
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